She Said She Couldn’t Wear Flare Jeans: Challenge Accepted

Ahhhhhh! I’m so excited to share this post! The “Challenge Accepted” post idea has been in my brain for almost 2 years! So often my friends or readers say, “I can’t wear (insert article of clothing) because (you name it).” Most of the time, I know they are completely wrong, but I know what it feels like to think this, so I just nod. What I really want to do is take them shopping at that very moment to show them they can in fact wear flares, or skinny jeans, or jean shorts, etc! I can’t help it. I’m defiant in this way, but I also don’t want my friends and readers to limit themselves!

This is exactly how this post started off! I received a late night text from my friend, Jennifer (an amazing instructor at Define and the General Manager at Tanglewood Define), who was convinced she was too short to wear flare jeans. #ChallengAccepted… Watch the video to see what happened…


Not only can she wear flare jeans, but she looks freaking amazing in them. I’m just saying!
Paige Flare Jeans

Paige Flare Jeans

In this picture, she is wearing the Paige Bell Canyon in Harbor. This color is sold out most places, but I found them at Don’t worry, it’s a reputable site. I talked with their rep at the blogger conference I recently attended. It’s actually a really cool concept, but more on that later.

Denim link: Paige Bell Canyon in Harbor, in Giona, in Chocolate Brown, in Weston, in Kenna, in Nottingham

DL1961 Flare Jeans

DL1961 Flare Jeans

Here are the other jeans we found for her! These are by DL1961. They are sold out most everywhere, but I found them on Amazon!

Denim Link: DL1961 Joy Flares in Pulse, in Hail, in Nirvana, in Whitman 

And because she knows me so well, she sends me pictures of herself in the jeans! It’s crazy how much I love these pictures.

A special thanks:

Jennifer, I love you! Thank you for being such a good sport and for being my first “Challenge Accepted”! You made my 2 year dream come true!

Claire, I love you, too! Thank you for making such a fun video for us to enjoy! Where have you been all my life?! You made my 2 year dream come true, too!

Now, who wants to be the next Challenge Accepted?

First Four images by: Traci Ling

Video by Claire:

Tips On Understanding Attire

Dodo Bar Or Amal Dress

Knowing what to wear to events can be extremely difficult. This may sound a little dramatic until you get an invitation and the attire reads “festive attire”, “country club casual”, or “black tie optional.”  Here is a great reference guide. These basic guidelines can be very helpful, but I also like to use context clues like setting, location, time of day, who is hosting and who is attending (does “context clues” make you have flashbacks to  elementary school like it does me?  -ha!).

Dodo Bar Or Amal Dress

For example, this weekend I am attending a blogger conference. The parties can be pretty posh (first context clue- host), and everyone is dressed to the nines (second context clue-guests). On Saturday evening, there is a “black tie optional” party. I immediately thought about wearing this dress since it’s long, but I knew it had to be the right location. For instance, this dress would work as “black tie optional” for an outdoor spring occasion, like an outdoor spring wedding, a party on the lawn of a home or country club, or a garden party. So I went to the invitation and googled the location and saw that the party was at an indoor museum/theater (third context clue- location/setting) at night (fourth context clue- time of day). Now, imagine this dress at night in a museum. Doesn’t really fit in, right? Technically this dress fits the “black tie optional” guidelines, but it might not be the right choice for this occasion based on the context clues.

Tuckernuck Earrings


Now, I have worn this to speak at a Spring Luncheon (context clue) that was held in an indoor ballroom hosted by a neighborhood women’s association (context clue). Since it was a spring ladies luncheon hosted by ladies, it felt right. But this dress would not look right in the same ballroom at night for a cocktail event hosted by an business organization. See what I mean?
Dodo Bar Or Amal Dress

If you are still lost, let me tell you something super cheesy I do that might help. Gather all your context clues and imagine yourself in the setting (location, time of day) with the people (hostess and guests). Imagine it like a movie you’ve seen. Now imagine you’re in the outfit in that room. Do you look or feel out of place? I know it’s cheesy, but it helps me. I hope it will help you, too.


Here’s another great example of how I choose accessories by mimicking what’s happening in my outfit (see Wednesday’s post).

Sometimes context clues can be even more helpful than your basic attire guidelines! I hope you feel more empowered when approaching the attire for your next event! Cheers!

Outfit Links: Dress – Dodo Bar Or Bag – Ottat/Myers Collective Earrings – Tuckernuck, similar HERE

Photos by: Traci Ling

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