Today, I experienced the power of an honest, brave moment with a friend. It was so cathartic that I had to share. The transition from summer to back-to-school has been a little difficult for me. I woke up this morning feeling a little confused and exhausted. Why? I don’t know. My boys have been in school since last week. I’ve been able to work and exercise. It makes no sense. But, I powered through and went to my exercise class anyway.
When I got to my class, I saw my girlfriend and said the usual, “Hey! How are you?!”. She replied back something like, “Good (long pause)…. ok, not so good. I don’t know what it is, but I’m just not doing that good because summer is over and everything is ramping up with schedules, sports etc. I had to journal this morning.” I think my eyes immediately welled up with tears. She was speaking my language. I, too, had been journaling to try and figure out my emotions around summer. It was like she was talking straight to my heart while at the same time mending it.
I’m so grateful for this brave friend who told me how she felt in the moment. She didn’t wait until after she had it figured out and was happy again (like I usually do. Once I figure it out and feel happy again, then I’ll talk about it.). No, she was brave. She was right in the moment struggling, and she was honest. It meant so much because I was right in the moment, too. It reminded me of this Brené Brown video…
Now, I’ve lived long enough to know that you can’t be vulnerable like this with everyone. Some will look at you like you have three eyes, or they’ll just feel pity for you and come up with some quick solution, so I’ll tread lightly. After all, boundaries are healthy. But, wouldn’t it be wonderful if I could have more of these moments?